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Tenacity...or Stubbornness?

Many years ago, my therapist, when asked what he liked about me, replied "Your tenacity." Little did I know that I would need that mule-headedness once I got married and had children. I guess I am like a dog that has gotten hold of something and won't let go! I am tenacious, I will admit it. When I get my mind set on something nothing can lead me astray!

Tenacity was a compliment my daughter's psychiatrist gave me...he said most moms would have given up by now.

Personally, I don't understand "giving up"....on anything! I find that the harder I have to work at something the more I appreciate it. Believe me, I've worked hard at this bipolar thing.....and when we have some stability I really appreciate it!

There are so many days that "giving up" sounds so good. Days where I wish I could just drive away....to Mexico! Days when I know I might get hit. But I am determined "get it right". One of my downfalls, I know, always striving to be perfect and to think that I am totally responsible.

Perhaps that is why teamwork is so important, it lightens your load of responsibility and guilt!

Put the guilt aside and help the child, no matter what it takes.

Don't give up because you hit an obstacle, and there are many obstacles to meet. Just meet it head on and keep going.

When your child is unstable, keep going, but go at a pace that your child can keep up with. Stop insisting on them being stable and insist on finding a way to help them be stable. They can't control their stability, you can guide it.

 

Being tenacious is important when you are raising a child with bipolar disorder.

It means:

  • You are willing to drive to the therapist every week, no matter how far you have to go, and not get worn out and give up.
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  • You will go to no end to find the right psychiatrist for your family/child. No matter how far you have to travel.
     

  • You will go to great lengths to give your child a "normal" life with friends and a good education.
     

  • You expect your child to be polite, have good manners, and treat others fairly. You won't accept a lesser standard just because they have bipolar disorder.
     

  • You will read everything you can get your hands on to help you manage this child's bipolar disorder.
     

  • You will homeschool no matter how difficult the days are, how many times you have to wait while your child calms down, how many days are lost to instability.

 
   

 



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