Patience, Not My Bailiwick!
just what is a "bailiwick"? A specific area of interest or expertise.
Well, patience has never been something I did very well. Perhaps God
gave me my daughter to teach me patience. Someone once told me, "Don't
pray for patience, God will just give you things in your life that call
have been a terrible mom in my 20's and even my 30's. No patience for
Now, I actually have friends who think
I am very patient! Every time someone says that to me I think, "Where
did they get that?" or "If they could only see me at home." But, truth
be told, I guess I have a lot of patience. I homeschool two children,
one who is dreamy and flighty and one who is stubborn and wants
everything her way. It's like herding cats, but cats you truly love!
I have learned to pray for God's grace
of patience and that works well. I think I have gained patience over
time as a mom. Some days are better than others. Some days are worse.
are going to raise children, you better develop patience quickly. If you
are raising a child with bipolar disorder, you will develop the patience
You will need patience to
deal with your child's moods and needs. But you will also need patience
to deal with:
think they understand your child better than you do.
have to be reminded that your child can't have certain kinds of meds
because it will interfere with bipolar meds or because it will cause
Friends who think it's
a behavioral problem that you need to get better at handling.
Siblings that think it
isn't fair that one child seems to get away with misbehaving while
they have to behave.
Husbands who think
they can fix things without reading, researching, etc.
People who think your
are drugging your child.
Other children who
don't understand why your child just told them "I don't ever want to
play with your again!"
Your child will teach you to be
patient. But you will need to help your child learn to be patient.
Bipolar children are very impatient!
- They want everything NOW!
When an idea comes into their head for a project they want to go to
the store immediately. And it will seem as though the end of the
world is coming to them and to you if they can't go NOW!
Sometimes you just have to say, "The next time we go to X store we
will look at that." And expect a meltdown. But remain calm, the
world won't end.
- Frustration is
abundant! These kids are so
easily frustrated it isn't funny. And some days they can work on
fractions for hours and be fine and ask questions and ask for help.
Another day 15 minutes of fractions may bring a meltdown.
Ahhh...unpredictable! They need to learn that it's OK to be
frustrated. The way out of frustration is to take it in steps and
work slowly, ask for help, and do your best.
- They keep their
own time schedule. This
requires everyone's patience. These kids will nag you if they know
you are about to go somewhere they want to go. "Let's go, get in the
shower, we'll be late!" But when it's time to get in the car, well
they need their shoes, and 5 things to work on in the car, they
forgot their jacket, etc. It's almost like taking a toddler on a
walk.........s l o w!
- They can be so
bossy! I'm used to being bossed
around by now, but my daughter's friends aren't! They want a chance
to have their way too. As does my son. But it's hard to get your own
way with my daughter. I gently try to suggest to her that her
friends might want to do something else and that's ok. Or I will
call her aside and say "you are being bossy". She tries hard but her
bossiness usually wins out. Patience my dear!